October 23, 2025. Today is my son’s birthday. He’d be a fully grown man now. Eddie would be sixty-four years old, the same age as Barack Obama. But he passed from this life when he was seventeen, a month before his eighteenth birthday, forty-six years ago. Funny how those numbers are reversed this year – 64 and 46. But this is a special year. We who are still here must know that. This is the year of the rise of goodness.
I know how that sounds. Crazy, right? Wars and the threat of wars loom over the planet. Children are starving and bombed to death in the Middle East. African children are dying from AIDS because the medicine that kept them alive has been taken away. There are military troops in our cities. People are being abducted by masked men and sent to God-knows-where without a hearing and no recourse to counsel. American citizens have been put into detention camps. Convicted criminals have been pardoned and are out on the streets, committing new crimes. Hateful rants and death threats are rampant on the Internet. Thousands of civil servants who worked for our health, safety, and welfare have lost their jobs. And in the words of the new American Pope, “The earth is burning.” The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer. Our government is shut down. Members of Congress are hiding from their constituents. A rose garden is gone. And the East Wing of the White House is being torn down in front of our eyes. Destroyed.
And I dare say this is the year of the rise of goodness?
When my son died, the world went dark. It took years of healing to see the light that he had sent back, the doors he had opened. It took work. It took time. But eventually, I began to notice the changes that had occurred in myself and in my family. We began to heal. We began to create. To laugh. We became singers, artists, writers. We found hope. We remembered and honored our ancestors. Our work began to help others. We got better than we were, than we might ever have been. Two new babies came into our world, and we learned to love as we never did before. A third-generation baby has just come to us. Compounding love. Opening our hearts even more. We found our spirits, and Eddie’s. We know that he never left us. A goodness rose out of the darkness. And I began to realize – it always does.
There are those unknown and unsung, who, at this very moment, are performing acts of kindness toward those who are low, lending help to those who are helpless. They are in hospitals and on battlefields. They warn us of hazardous weather conditions from civilian outposts. They are in nursing homes and soup kitchens. They are planting trees and finding money to continue their research into cures for diseases. They smile at the checkout person, wait staffs, and flight attendants, lifting their hearts. They listen to others’ fears without judgement. They’re running for office in places where there is little hope of winning. They come to work every day and perform their public jobs without pay. They dispense hope. They share their money and homes with those who have lost theirs, food with those who do not know where their next meal is coming from, and yes, they are learning from their loved ones in Spirit how to walk in the world. They live in faraway countries and next door. The darkness has made them want to do better. Do more.
I come in contact with people like this every day. Some are my friends. Most, of course, I do not know, but I know of a lot of them. You do, too. They are here and around the world, gently tending the sick and dying, feeding the hungry, touching the wounded in body and spirit, landing our planes. Making us laugh and dance. They are rising in number. They are answering a call. They are quiet and brave, renewed in energy, upgraded by a Power greater than us all. They are the direct response to the darkness. They have heard the still, small voice. They are growing in number, making this the year of the rise in goodness.
So happy birthday, my darling boy. We are not lost. Or hopeless. We’re going to be all right.
Thank you so much for this essay. I was thinking of writing something myself. I have been so incredibly sad and hopeless about our country. About our lives as we try to understand how to survive going forwardYou have given me hope and promise for better days ahead Thank youAnd Happy 64th Birthday-to your s
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Thank you, Ginni. I hope you are well. Don’t lose hope. Ever. Give my best to Bob.
Helen
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Oh Helen, You’ve got me crying again. You have always touched my heart and all of our hearts with your beautiful words. We need you so much these days. But I believe too that our world is a better place and that goodness will rise and shine again. Love you and miss you, oh great woman. Kitty
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Hello, my darling friend. I think of you often. Just yesterday, I was looking at my bookshelves and saw a stack of your beautiful books. It brought you back to me. Love you forever,
Helen
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Lovely! As usual…
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Thank you, Donna.
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Wow, wow, WOW Maman! How POWERFUL and RIGHT on TIME! I’m sitting here in the lobby of the Turkey Thicket Rec Center across the street from my little home in Brookland with tears falling on my mask. I just finished my sunrise CCR Yoga/Qigong series in the gym with the eastern sun drenching a cold open basketball court space as my Oshun playlist feeds me the rhythm of THIS DAY. This is the day AFTER Eddie’s birthday when I have a moment to reflect on how POWERFUL Thursday, October 23, 2025 was for me as well. A dear friend of yours and Bill’s , Patrice, spontaneously invited me to a wonderful lunch at her favorite restaurant in DuPont Circle where she often shares a meal with her son. She knew the picture of Eddie I flashed from my little iPhone that is more of a storage of memories for me than anything else. But she did NOT know about Lukhamen: The Last High Priest of Amon that I keep attached to my hips until I finish this long awaited novel that sings of a time where perhaps more lives that we know and LOVE now were lived together as well in 214 CE than we realize. I felt so LOVED and spoiled…as if you…and Bill…and Eddie…and Debbie…and Michaela were there with me celebrating 64 years of such a SPECTACULAR use of 17 years breathing. Happy happy and BLESSED Eddie’s birthday Maman. BLESS YOU for bringing all 4 of us through the portal of your womb so we could meet again and LOVE so deep once more.
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Thank you, my darling girl. Always in my corner and loving to my friends. And soul mate to our Eddie. God bless you.
Maman
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Dear Helen, you write hope and it uplifts and celebrates Spirit. Thank you. Happy Birthday, Eddie.
love, Nancy
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Again, thank you dear Nancy.
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Happy Birthday Eddie. and, Helen, thank you for the fine writing and inspiration.
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Thank you, dear Nancy.
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Oh Helen, thank you for that. Your son did touch us, even when we were so young. Funny he and Kathy’s birthdays so close, hers the 21st.
And thank you for reminding me to have hope through these trying times. Missing my parents and their support as we battle everyday to keep our spirits lifted. They, like you, were those people who spread the love. ❤️
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Hello, Dear Susan. Thank you for your sweet reply and the memories of Germany and your parents, who I loved.
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You’ve always been a beacon of light for so many of us, dear Helen.
It’s always so inspiring and uplifting to read your words.
My thoughts are with you, Eddy and Bill
Take care,
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